What you are forgetting is that there is a third option: the option taught to us by our beloved Prophet (sws).
Let us examine each of the three options for meeting a marriage partner: One option is dating. First, the Prophet (sws) has taught us that it is haram for a non-mahram (unrelated) man and a woman to be alone together. Department of Justice, 68% of young girls raped knew their rapist either as a boyfriend, friend or casual acquaintance, and 60% of rapes of young women occur in their own home or a friend or relative’s home – not in a dark alley.
Heina Dadabhoy spent their childhood as a practicing Muslim who never in their right mind would have believed that they would grow up to be an atheist feminist secular humanist.
In one beautiful hadith, the Prophet (sws) says: (Ahmad) Secondly, you state the concern of getting to know someone for marriage.
You explain that dating is needed since arranged marriages are not feasible.
However, by saying this you imply that these are the only two routes to getting married.
Last time we spoke about the idea of dating and how this aligns with the modern Muslim.
I think dating before marriage is such a vital part of getting to know yourself.